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For many decades the summer season has been the traditional choice for those getting married, and despite the increasing popularity of spring, fall and even winter weddings, the popularity of summer weddings has continued unabated.

For those in the throes of planning such a wedding, it is important to look for the perfect summer wedding theme for your own special ceremony.

Determine The Nature Of The wedding Theme

One of the most important parts of planning the perfect summer wedding theme is to determine the nature of the wedding ceremony that is best for your own needs.

There are many different types of weddings, of course, and it is important to determine the type of ceremony that best suits your own needs.

Some brides to be will enjoy having a casual wedding ceremony surrounded by a few close family members and friends, while others will prefer to have a large, formal wedding at the best country club in town.

It is important to match the type of ceremony to the needs and wants of the bride to be, and not to be influenced by outside forces. The wedding, after all, is all about the happy couple, and it is important to choose the type of ceremony carefully.

Using Publications To Help You Find A Theme

After you know what type of ceremony best suits your own needs, it is important to start searching for the perfect summer wedding theme.

If you are in the middle of planning a wedding, chances are good that you already have plenty of wedding planning guides and bridal magazines lying around, and these publications can be the perfect way to gather lots of ideas for the perfect summer wedding theme.

The Internet Is Full Of Resources

In addition to these publications there are of course plenty of different summer wedding theme ideas on the internet, and the internet can be a great way to research lots of great wedding themes in a short period of time.

No matter what type of wedding ceremony you prefer, however, it is important to start planning that wedding as early as possible.

Shaunta Pleasant is a professional writer and editor on wedding topics. Visit my site to learn more about planning the perfect wedding at
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Complacency is involved in the demise of numerous marriages every year. It can drain the excitement, passion, and energy out of a marriage.

Spouses who are complacent are not motivated to do things differently or work on making personal changes. They are often blissfully unaware of the dangers of taking a partner for granted and assuming all is fine when it’s not.

Complacent spouses also lack the ability to know when it’s important to take a stand and “draw a line in the sand.” They have settled for the status quo and don’t want to rock the boat or make waves. Many times, they look for the easy way out that involves the least possible expenditure of time or energy.

A former client I’ll call “Edwin” was a complacent spouse. His wife periodically screamed and threw fits about insignificant things while he tried to tune her out. His goal wasn’t to tackle the problems in the marriage head on. His goal was for his wife to finish her tirade as quickly as possible so he could get back to his TV program. He accepted the situation instead of working to change it.

“Allie” was also a complacent spouse. She kept reassuring her husband that no matter what he did, she would always be there for him and that she would never leave him. Even though her marriage was unrewarding, she put up with the lack of communication and intimacy rather than take the risk to initiate change. Thus, she reinforced her husband’s habitual neglect of her emotional needs and settled for a marriage that was unsatisfying to her.

Authors John C. Friel, Ph.D., and Linda D. Friel, M.A. in the book they co-authored titled The Seven Best Things (Happy) Couples Do write about the importance of being willing to divorce. According to the Friels, many not-so-happy couples have been misled into thinking that “If you love each other, you’ll never think about ending it.”

They write, “If you’re too dependent on your partner to ever go to the brink, your relationship is in danger of becoming stagnant and dead, which will push you over the brink.” The fear of taking a stand can indicate that you’re feeling powerless and helpless.

The Friels state that if “you aren’t willing to put your foot down now and then, the sparks begin to die out. The only two types of people who want to be in a relationship with a victim are either another victim or a perpetrator. Healthy people don’t like the manipulation and martyrdom that go with the victim role. Adults don’t like to be in a relationship with no resistance. It doesn’t feel good. It doesn’t have any energy in it. It feels stale.”

When a relationship has an element of riskknowing that your partner may choose to leaveyou are less likely to take the relationship for granted and to get complacent. If you make the relationship too safe for your partner, he or she may become bored or stagnant.

If you and your spouse are both “on your toes,” you will be motivated to put more effort into the relationship. There’s a big difference, say the Friels, between choosing to stay in the marriage versus being desperate to stay. When a spouse is desperate to stay in the marriage, he or she will be too scared to “go to the brink.” There are risks in “going to the brink,” write the Friels, but the risks of not doing so are worse.

Of course you need to take your time and think through the issues before taking a premature stand that you’ll back down from. But taking a stand at an appropriate time in an appropriate, thoughtful manner could make all the difference in the quality of your marriage.

Am I advocating that you jump into divorce? Far from it. Many situations can be handled while a couple is still living together, once the energies of both partners are focused on solving the problems. In other cases, the possibility of a marital separation may be needed to fully get the spouse’s complete attention.

In The Seven Best Things (Happy) Couples Do, the authors give an example of an appropriate way to deliver the news when a serious problem is involved, such as alcohol abuse or severe depression: “I love you more than anything else in the world. And, if you don’t get some help for this problem, I will have to move out, or ask you to move out, unless you do get help, because I’m not willing to sit idly by and watch you go under.”

Being able to take a calculated risk can “stir the pot” when change is direly needed. You don’t want your marriage to die out with a whimper or to be dull and lifeless. Only you can answer the question, “Is it time to snap out of complacency and take action?”

For readers who want a powerful book on how to have a truly great relationship, I highly recommend The Seven Best Things (Happy) Couples Do by John C. Friel, Ph.D. and Linda D. Friel, M.A.

Nancy J. Wasson, Ph.D., is co-author of Keep Your Marriage: What to Do When Your Spouse Says “I don’t love you anymore!” This is available at http://www.KeepYourMarriage.com , where you can sign up for a free weekly marriage advice newsletter. Dr. Wasson offers telephone and email coaching to spouses who want to overcome marriage problems and create a rewarding, loving marriage.

In a recent article entitled “Some Evidence On How We
Are Spiritually Connected” I reported on a case study that revealed how individuals who share common traumatic memories can help each other release the trauma at a distance employing a new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM). In this article I will elaborate some of the potential applications of such a result as well as its far reaching implications.

It is well known that within family systems, for instance, the individuals therein share an entire life history of common trauma. Often this trauma may be in the form of isolated incidents experienced by one individual outside of the family setting and then brought into the family via direct contact. In other situations the trauma may be the result of relationship difficulties within the family system itself.

In the quoted study it became evident that one way of accounting for the distance healing effects was by invoking the concept of an energy field of information within which is stored, just like on the hard drive of your computer, the life history of the individual. Hence the non-local, i.e. distant, effects of one field on another could then be used to explain the distance healing results that I observed.

Now it is also clear that one’s DNA, with its own energy field, was inherited from one’s parents, and theirs from their parents and so on. In other words the DNA, which is in every cell of one’s body and whose energy field affects and informs the energy field of the entire body is doing so with many generations of historical information embedded in it.

In other words, it could be said that one is carrying many generations of trauma, not just one’s own family history or life history of trauma. Now because the field interactions ie. interpersonal and intergenerational, that result from any trauma immediately and pervasively affect everyone in the collective energy field then such individuals become negatively affected. This is hypothesized to predispose individuals within a collective field to certain emotional and/or physical illnesses.

The interesting point however is that now we have a tool that is able to release negative fragments of trauma i.e. a traumatic memory, anywhere in the collective field and this hypothetically will automatically reverberate throughout the entire collective field, across space and time. This will release the effects of such trauma on anyone who has been, is, or ever will be part of that collective field.

The effects should be somewhat similar to what was described in the experience of the individuals in the quoted study.
These include such things as a reclaiming of vital energy within individuals and within the system as a whole. What is also hypothetically possible is an entire restructuring of relational dynamics within the system. This is because the individuals will each shift to a place closer to their true or authentic selves.

What does all this mean? Well for one it means a happier and more peaceful family system that is invigorated and connected with positive loving energy rather than negative destructive energy. As I’m sure you can see the implications for the larger systems such as communities or the planet as a whole is staggering.

Nick Arrizza M.D. is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Researcher, Speaker, Developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process(TM), and Author of e-book: “Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation” which is available for download on his web site at: http://www.telecoaching4u.com/ebook.htm Dr. Arrizza holds ongoing International Telephone Healing and Teleconference Sessions on topics relating to Healing and Spirituality.